What are the most significant ways they’ve changed? What risks do they each take? Was there any decision or action you disagreed with on the part of Marian or Kirby? Kirby and Marian both change over the course of this story.Why does Kirby decide to find her birth mother? Does she find what she is seeking? How would this book have been different if Kirby found her mother working in a blue-collar job in the suburbs? How would this book have been different if Kirby had been a boy? Do you think that Kirby’s disappointment in her parents at the beginning of the book is justified, or is she simply experiencing typical “teen angst?”.What do you think of the secret Marian’s parents kept from her? What do you think that says about their marriage and their respective relationships with her?.Who lost the most because of secrets: Conrad, Kirby, or Marian? Conversely, who gained the most when the secrets were exposed? Who do you think is the most honest character in the book?.Do you think secrets and lies are one in the same? How do the characters in the novel accept or come to terms with the secrets they’ve kept or the ones that have been kept from them? Describe the secrets in this book and the reasons various characters had for keeping them.

One of the themes in Where We Belong is what happens when we ke ep secrets.

Where we belong by emily giffin